“If you’re ever scared just remember, you survived middle school.” Our “How to Design a Life of Yes” instructor, Saya Hillman, told us this during our class Thursday night. The quote resonated with me because I so often write about my own mortifying journey to becoming a “grown woman,” (where are the instructional videos on how to handle your body and boys in your twenties, health teachers?) So if the most cringe-worthy moments are behind us, what is preventing us from living a fuller and happier life of yes?

There are 13 steps Saya has identified to help you design your life of yes. To get all 13 you’ll have to take the class 🙂 but I’ve included a few of my favorites here:

Own Your Superpowers.

Saya explained that superpowers can be anything you’re good at, whether it’s adding fractions or connecting people. To help us identify our superpowers, Saya paired us up with another student. Then we had a minute to “brag” to our partners about the things that made us awesome.

Forget modesty for a minute and ask yourself, what are you most proud of in your life?

Embrace Your Suckage.

What do you think you’re terrible at and what’s the worse that could happen if you try it? Saya told us how she use to think she was bad at public speaking. One day she decided to add a “hire me to speak” link on her website and soon after she was contacted to speak at a conference.

Would it help you to know that someone is probably worse at speaking Japanese or running a mile than you are? Well they are. Now get up and try.

Go Solo.

This is a scary, scary, concept for some people. It was for me, back in November when I started this crazy Dabble experiment. I totally agree with Saya on this one, you’ll be less likely to talk to new people if you bring a friend (or a phone. Seriously, turn it off for an hour and LIVE.)


Lots of us dream of being more outgoing, admired for our skills, confident at farmers markets, meeting handsome strangers, but we don’t know where to begin. The “Design of Life of Yes” class, gives you time to self-reflect and then provides you with a roadmap how to achieve your deepest darkest desires. So go ahead and start your journey! It won’t be worse than that time you weren’t invited to that sleepover. I promise.


Ali Kelley is a 20-something trying to figure out her life one Dabble at a time. She is the Community Manager at social good startupZealous Good and the creator of The Cry Cave, a collection of the web’s best videos to make you cry. Be sure to check back each Wednesday to see her newest Dabble class adventure, and cheer her on with words of encouragement through the comments section below or on Twitter @freegiantparty.