by Amy Angelilli


When my brother was little, he used to ask “How Come …” questions all the time. “How come … this?” “How come … that?” Finally one day even he realized he was doing it a lot and asked, “How come I say how come?”

A few years ago, I found myself asking the same question. “How come I say how come?” … about a lot of things. For example, how come that person always has a good job? How come that person gets to travel through Asia for several weeks? How come that person has found love? And the list goes on.

So, how come then?

Maybe the person who always has a good job is career driven and makes that her top priority. Maybe the person traveling through Asia wanted to do it badly enough that he made sacrifices to do it. Maybe the person who found love made it his intention and took a purposeful action step to make it happen.

Luck, of course, factors into many life experiences.

My luck happened via Facebook. My neighborhood association group page periodically hosts Shameless Self Promotion Day. On one of these days, I noticed a post from Dabble co-founder, Jessica Lybeck. It was a simple post, just letting the neighbors know about Dabble with a link attached. I had never heard of Dabble, so I was intrigued by the concept. After hopping on the website, I couldn’t believe what was spewing out of my computer… all different kinds of adventures! And the co-founder was practically my neighbor!

Rewind to this time last year when I started going on job interviews. For six months, I interviewed for positions that were seemingly written for me. But, I wasn’t getting any offers. Over the summer I started to do career development work. I knew I wanted/needed a new career; but, I wasn’t exactly sure how to go about it. I went on a retreat. I went on informational interviews. And then I met Jessica.

Jessica spoke with me about the start-up community, the creativity involved in launching an unconventional business and the challenges that are part of the process. That’s when it hit me. I wanted… a business – not a job.

So many ideas were swirling around in my head. I started working with a business coach to figure out how my various passions could intersect with my expertise to create a business that would get me jazzed. One thing I did know is that this process felt more “me” than applying for jobs.

And that’s what I wanted to do moving forward: Be me.

In reflecting on this seemingly simple concept, I thought about the “how come” questions I had been asking myself. Then it dawned on me that I had found love and I knew “how come.” At the end of 2011, I consciously decided I wanted a meaningful relationship. I reworked my online dating profile to be authentic and speak from the heart. And guess what? It worked! I got married on the one-year anniversary of revealing that heartfelt profile.

If I can do this for my love life then surely I can do this for my work life.

Shortly after having this revelation, I spoke with Jessica about how I was helping friends rewrite their online dating profiles. She suggested I do a Dabble workshop about writing authentic online dating profiles. I thought it would be a great way to test the waters and to really help people dig beneath the surface of their online communications.

Meanwhile, my business development work was heating up and by year-end the concept was fully formed. The soft launch is set for February 1st, which coincides with my Dabble workshop. This may seem coincidental, but the truth is that it makes sense.

After much deliberation, brainstorming and looking inside myself, I’m launching The Adventure Project, which offers relationship, life and travel adventures for the Every Person. What better way to kick things off than by hosting a “Finding an Authentic Relationship Online” workshop just before Valentine’s Day?

My new adventure is just beginning. I hope Dabble inspires you to find your own adventure!


** Photo credit: Lexis Krieg and Lexisworks